黑客大会:defcon
A number of people asked me what projects, what code, what open source I did over the long holiday. ZERO. I did squat. I played video games, in fact. A bunch of them. I felt a little guilty then I got over it.
许多人问我在漫长的假期中我做了什么项目，什么代码，什么开源。 零。 我蹲了实际上，我玩过电子游戏。 一堆。 我感到内，然后克服了。
The Fun of Finishing - Exploring old games with Xbox Backwards Compatibility
I'm not a big gamer but I like a good story. I do single player with a plot. I consider a well-written video game to be up there with a good book or a great movie. I like a narrative and a beginning and end. Since it was the holidays, it did require some thought to play games.
我不是游戏玩家，但我喜欢一个好故事。 我做一个单人游戏。 我认为写得很好的视频游戏里有一本好书或一部好电影。 我喜欢叙述，也喜欢起点和终点。 由于是假期，所以玩游戏确实需要一些思考。
When you're in a mixed relationship (a geek/techie and a non-techie) you need to be respectful of your partner's expectations. The idea of burning 4-6 hours playing games likely doesn't match up with your partner's idea of a good time. That's where communication comes in. We've found this simple system useful. It's non-gendered and should work for all types of relationships.
当您处于混合关系(极客/技术人员和非技术人员)时，您需要尊重伴侣的期望。 花费4-6个小时玩游戏的想法可能与伴侣的美好时光想法不符。 这就是通信的源头。我们发现这个简单的系统很有用。 它是非性别的，应该适用于所有类型的关系。
My spouse and I sat down at the beginning of our holiday vacation and asked each other "What do you hope to get out of this time?" Setting expectations up front avoids quiet resentment building later. She had a list of to-dos and projects, I wanted to veg.
我和我的配偶在假期假期刚开始时坐下来，互相问：“您希望这次摆脱什么？” 预先设定期望值可以避免稍后产生的不满情绪。 我想为她提供一份待办事项和项目清单。
Sitting around all day (staycation) is valid, as is using the time to take care of business (TCB). We set expectations up front to avoid conflict. We effectively scheduled my veg time so it was planned and accepted and it was *ok and guilt-free*
整日坐着(住宿)是有效的，利用时间来照顾商务(TCB)也是如此。 我们预先设定期望以避免冲突。 我们有效地安排了我的素食时间，因此它得到了计划和接受，并且“没有罪恶感”
We've all seen the trope of the gamer hyper-focused on their video game while the resentful partner looks on. My spouse and I want to avoid that - so we do. If she knows I want to immerse myself in a game, a simple heads up goes a LONG way. We sit together, she reads, I play.
我们都已经看到了游戏玩家的视线，他们在充满怨恨的伙伴注视着他们的视频游戏时全神贯注。 我和我的配偶希望避免这种情况-我们做到了。 如果她知道我想让自己沉浸在游戏中，那么简单的抬头就可以了。 她坐在一起，我们一起玩。
It's important to not sneak these times up on your partner. "I was planning on playing all night" can butt up against "I was hoping we'd spend time together." Boom, conflict and quiet resentment can start. Instead, a modicum of planning. A simple headsup and balance helps.
重要的是不要将这些时间偷偷带给您的伴侣。 “我本来打算整晚玩游戏”可以与“我希望我们一起度过时光”相提并论。 繁荣，冲突和安静的怨恨可能开始。 取而代之的是少量的计划。 简单的平视和平衡会有所帮助。
I ended up playing about 2-3 days a week, from around 8-9pm to 2am (so a REAL significant amount of time) while we hung out on the other 4-5 days. My time was after the kids were down. My wife was happy to see me get to play (and finish!) games I'd had for years.
我结束了每周大约2-3天的比赛，从晚上8-9点到凌晨2点(这样的时间真是很多)，而我们在其他4-5天里则闲逛。 我的时间是在孩子们沮丧之后。 我的妻子很高兴看到我开始玩(并完成！)我多年以来的游戏。
Also, the recognition from my spouse that while she doesn't personal value my gaming time - she values that *I* value it. Avoid belittling or diminishing your partner's hobby. If you do, you'll find yourself pushing (or being pushed) away.
同样，我的配偶也意识到，尽管她并不个人珍视我的游戏时间，但她珍视* I *。 避免轻视或减少伴侣的爱好。 如果这样做，您会发现自己被推开(或被推开)。
One day perhaps I'll get her hooked on a great game and one day I'll enjoy a Hallmark movie. Or not. ;) But for now, we enjoy knowing and respecting that we each enjoy (and sometimes share) our hobbies. End of thread.
也许有一天，我会让她迷上一场精彩的比赛，而有一天，我会欣赏一部霍尔马克电影。 或不。 ;)但就目前而言，我们喜欢了解和尊重我们每个人都喜欢(有时分享)自己的爱好。 线程结束。
If you enjoy my wife's thinking, check her out on my podcast The Return of Mo. My wife and I also did a full podcast with audio over our Cancer Year
如果您喜欢我妻子的想法，请在我的播客“莫的归来”中查看她。 我和我的妻子还在《癌症年》中做了完整的播客播音
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关于斯科特 (About Scott)
Scott Hanselman is a former professor, former Chief Architect in finance, now speaker, consultant, father, diabetic, and Microsoft employee. He is a failed stand-up comic, a cornrower, and a book author.
斯科特·汉塞尔曼(Scott Hanselman)是前教授，前金融首席架构师，现在是演讲者，顾问，父亲，糖尿病患者和Microsoft员工。 他是一位失败的单口相声漫画家，一个玉米种植者和一本书的作者。
黑客大会:defcon